Why Gun Control is NOT About Guns

Here we go. The old “Why gun control is not about guns,” topic. I just have to weigh in on it from time to time.

Let’s start with something both the Left and the Right should agree on—no one wants dead kids. No one wants to see mass shootings splashed across their screens week after week. Whether you're on the left, shouting for more gun control, or on the right, defending the Second Amendment with everything you’ve got, we should all be after the same outcome: safety and peace.

But how we think we’ll get there? That’s where everything goes off the rails.

The Gun Control Debate

For a while now, the debate has devolved into a shouting match. Both sides are hurling their sets of statistics across the aisle, talking at each other, not to each other. Each group claims to have the answer, while dismissing the other as ignorant, evil, or delusional. But here's the truth—nobody seems to be listening anymore, and honestly, we may be past that, but that’s a topic for another time.

My dad used to say this is “the age of non-accountability.” Nobody wants to take responsibility anymore—maybe, here in 2025, its become a culturally impossible; perhaps our society has gone that far, but I digress. We still blame objects, politicians, culture, each other—anything but ourselves.

So here’s my take, and, shocker, gun control won’t fix anything. All it will do is disarm and make victims of the good guys like us. The root cause is closer to home, more personal, and a lot harder to fix.

Gun-Free Zones Aren’t the Answer

As a firearms and tactics instructor and former special operations guy, I’ve spent years teaching good people how to stop bad people. That’s how I feed my family. So I don’t speak from theory—I speak from experience. I live this stuff.

One of the most dangerous ideas out there is these gun-free zones. These zones don’t stop mass shootings—they attract them. Bad guys know where the soft targets are, and so a “gun-free zone” sign isn’t a deterrent; it’s an invitation.

Guns in the hands of good people are really the only effective way to stop those with evil intent. That's not some alpha slogan—it's the reality we’ve seen time and time again.

You Can’t Legislate Evil

Some people argue that stricter gun laws will fix the problem, but here’s the thing, bad guys don’t follow laws. Drugs are illegal, and yet the drug market thrives. Making guns illegal will only disarm law-abiding citizens, not criminals. We’ve got more guns than people in the U.S., so even if you banned all new firearm sales tomorrow, the black market would still thrive, and the dangerous people would still find ways to arm themselves.

Gun control laws don’t eliminate threats—they handicap the good guys who could stop them.

The Tools Aren’t to Blame, We Are

A gun or a knife doesn’t have a will. It doesn’t move on its own. It doesn’t try to kill me if I set it down on the table. It just sits there. The real issue isn’t the tool, it’s the person holding it.

So why are people snapping? Why are mass killings occurring at an unprecedented rate when our grandparents didn’t deal with this kind of horror?

People are becoming more and more unhealthy and far more unbalanced than in previous generations. To make it worse, media attention fuels some sick, diabolical competition among these twisted, evil people who want to commit these heinous crimes. Every headline teaches the next would-be killer how to make more noise, do more damage, and get more attention. It’s a copycat epidemic.

But even that is just a symptom of something deeper. We’re facing a sociological problem, something truly devastating, and I believe it is starting with the disintegration of the family unit.

A Culture in Crisis: The Fatherless Epidemic

Let’s talk about what I believe is at the heart of it all: broken families.

One in four kids in America is growing up without a father in the home. That statistic alone should make you stop in your tracks. Fatherlessness isn’t just a sad story, it’s a national crisis.

Here’s the statistics of growing up in a fatherless home today:

• Twice as likely to be obese
• Four times more likely to live in poverty
• Seven times more likely to experience teenage pregnancy
• Nine times more likely to drop out of school
• Twice as likely to commit suicide
• 80% of all adolescents in psychiatric facilities come form fatherless homes
• Ten times more likely to abuse drugs
• Nearly three times more likely to deal drugs and possess illegal firearms
• Twenty times more likely to end up in prison

Let that sink in. We’re not dealing with a legislative issue—we’re staring down the collapse of the American family.

This isn’t something the government can fix. It’s my problem, it’s your problem, it’s our problem. The government can’t fix your marriage, and the government can’t love your kids. That’s your job. That’s my job.

What Can We Do?

My wife and I are all-in on loving our kids and loving the kids in our community. We invite neighborhood kids over. We want our home to be a place of safety, mentoring, and love—not just for our sons, but for others who might not have it.

If we want to solve this crisis, it starts with us. With being present. With raising our kids right—with love, discipline, and right leadership. My wife and I are going to raise our boys, not society, not the government, and they’re not going to grow up to be sickos who fantasize about killing a bunch people for some twisted sense of glory.

Final Thoughts

We’re missing the key issue as a society. We keep blaming the tools. But it’s not the guns. It’s not the knives. It’s not even the laws.

It’s us.

Fix the family, and you change the future.

Until then, Train Hard, Train Smart, and prioritize your family.